Approaching beautiful women

By on July 17, 2011

The purpose of an opener is not getting her phone number or impressing her. during this phase you should focus on creating a social connection between you and the group of people your target is in. You must be shocking, make them get out of their world and join youSo let’s see what an Alpha Male does and doesn’t do:

You spot a “10”, blonde hair, blue eyes, long legs. A very beautiful girl.

You walk up to her and …

YOU: “Hey”

HER: “Hi”

YOU: “So… do you come here often?”

HER: “No.”

YOU: “Oh, I see…”

Notice how this conversation isn’t going anywhere? Try this:

YOU: “Hey”

HER: ”Hi”

YOU: “Wow you’re a 10!”

HER: Heh thanks. (thinking “omg another loser, how will I get this one lost as fast as possible?”)

YOU: “Ehm… at a closer look I say a 7…”(Neg)

HER: “What?!? How dare you !(knowing that she is a 10 her confidence level is sky high)

YOU: Oh well don’t worry 7 is a good mark ! (gently pat her on her shoulder sincerely expressing the fact that you are not impressed, in pick up literature this is called a NEG – negative hit)

And here you are, you opened the girl and demonstrated higher value that most guys by showing that you are not impressed at all by her looks.

After all let’s be honest, approaching women isn’t that easy. It can be awkward, embarrassing, and downright difficult. But, like most things in life, if you know what you are doing, it’s easier. If you really want to become an Alpha Male, you need to practice.

When approaching women you should concentrate on the following things :

The first and most important rule is to open as fast as possible, not allowing your mind to start asking stupid questions and destroy the little confidence you have. Start to pick up women right when you enter the venue or as fast as possible, and make sure nobody conceives you as being alone because it lowers your social value. Even if you don’t have a specific target right from the start never sit with your beer in front of your chest looking around like a predator like most guys do, rather pretend that you’re having a conversation on your cell phone or talk to a friend but never sit alone gazing around.

Open using an opener with situational relevance, in a way you DO NOT convey sexual interest, facing body/feet in a different way you normally would while talking to somebody familiar. If you are worried that she might avoid conversation, don’t be! Have you ever seen how openers are performed in movies? Almost all the time the man faces the bar, not showing any interest in starting and building conversation with the girl and throws a one line statement, usually a question or few words about something that he thinks is true about the target. Note that it is a good practice to hold a strong eye contact while facing your chest towards another direction. It is also common to lie and tell her you have just a few moments to talk because you are on your way back to your friends (perhaps pointing to your friends’ table). In addition you can perform a body trick communicating to your target that you are about to leave but just when “you leave” you have another question or story to tell.

You can substantially improve your chance of performing a successful approach if you have girls with you. Ask a good friend who accidentally happens to be a girl to accompany you in your pick up, it will be fun for both of you. Afterwards always reward her with help in meeting guys.

Don’t allow yourself to be fazed out by anything, if an opener fails, just come up with another one as if nothing happened. Absolutely nothing she says should ever be real obstacle between the two of you, of course excepting her boyfriend or husband’s presence.

After running a few openers you will reach to a point when the group isn’t wondering when you will leave, and instead starts hoping that you will stay.  This is the moment when you change from a stranger into a member of their group, so enjoy your stay!

Best of luck in your future endeavors! And here are some more openers to help you be more successful in pick-up.


  1. Buff Ukrainian Alpha

    October 19, 2012 at 9:22 am

    Oh and 1 more thing: Have a nice day!

    • alphamen

      October 19, 2012 at 2:01 pm

      Thanks for your comments, you too!

  2. Buff Ukrainian Alpha

    October 19, 2012 at 9:20 am

    Attention Donna: You’re not a very good liar.Lol! I’m willing to bet that you wish that a good looking alpha male walked up to you and gave you even 5 seconds of attention. K, I know, I know the truth hurts, but that’s ok. Rent a sappy movie, get a pail of ice cream, a box of kleenex and get over it.Most women love cocky guys, the ones that say they don’t, are full of it, or are gay, or have issues of a psychological nature! It’s been scientifically proven. Ok you can stop throwing a temper tantrum now. Lol..You join the ranks of what me and the boys call BSG’s…. (Bitter Single Chicks).

  3. bobh

    January 28, 2012 at 8:15 pm

    Ditto Mel

    • Donna

      May 1, 2012 at 7:18 pm

      It is being sneaky and it’s for utter lrsoes.I would rather have a dirty, ugly, unconventional, shy man come up to me and express interest than an obvious player.And no, I’m never in the mood for a quickie and I’m not stupid enough to pay any mind to pickup artists. Absolutely pathetic.Like the girl above me said, all you need is a functioning brain and some confidence. What’s the point in trying to get a new woman each night to go home with you? That is like begging for STDs. The so called pickup artist is no better than a prostitute. The former is just glorified by males. It’s so ridiculous. Men never grow up, do they?

  4. Mel

    January 13, 2012 at 6:38 pm

    This is good…the only unrealistic thing is that it portrays that beautiful women can only be found at the bar! If a beautiful blond, a 10 lets say, spends alot of time at a bar, she’s an alcoholic! Alcoholics are known to have personality issues and thus explains why women at bars pretend to be so confident when in fact they are only showing the opposite. Attention all men: women at bars are just a bag on unpleasant surprises! Don’t waist your time picking up women at a bar!

    • Servena

      May 4, 2012 at 4:03 am

      It’s like you’re on a msision to save me time and money!

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